My instinct is to return the item in a little bag with a note saying it isn’t mine. But somehow that feels rude, presumptuous and a bit intrusive.

A letter writer finds a pair of racy underwear that isn’t theirs in their laundry. Dear Miss Manners: I live near a university, and graduate students are always looking for odd jobs to make extra money. One of them does my laundry twice a week, and always returns it beautifully folded.

I live near a university and pay students to do my laundry. Recently I found some expensive-looking and risqué underwear that doesn’t belong to me. Is there a way to discretely return it?